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perhaps sensing that a person likes you is inevitable.  i have this crush on a banco de oro checking accounts staff but i’m eagerly controlling how i act to be not crushed to death by my gf!hehehe i was amazed perhaps even happy yesterday that she was smiling as i was entering the door and promptly prepared my checkbooks as i was filling up a deposit slip. when i passed at her table to go to the teller, she said "mr. juarez, here’s the checkbook that you requested 2 weeks ago.  please sign here" i instinctively answered, "prepared na? bal-an mo gali ngalan ko?".

regularly, i’m lining up to give my savings account number to enable searching my ata (automatic transfer account) number which i regularly forget.  they usually ask for my ID and then check the signature to finish my checking transactions.  my lesson for the day, my employee whom i regularly task to handle my weekly banking transactions said to me, "bisan ano mo na ka pa good boy good boy kas (cousin), isa lang kita ka maluming nga lalaki."  perhaps even if you try to control things to appear as you wanted (in this case i don’t want to appear that i like her, because she knows by the click of her pc my worth and the volume of in-out transactions considering my age) because this might cause problems from my loving gf, you cant just hide things very easily.

additionally, they often call me in my mobile to confirm check issuance since they claim that my signature always differed a bit.hehehe

Ideas as complex as love is as complicated a thing as living life.  I wish that it would be as logical and simple as just solving a math or business problem.  I have read some e-book on the net that deduces the feeling of love as physical attraction, emotional attraction, mental attraction, and spiritual attraction.  These concepts might be present in each relationship but varying in significance and intensity.

Physical attraction is as simple as appreciating a typical beauty and as complex as focusing on a specific body part and perhaps even on an eye-popping experience of sex.  Mental attraction shows of a link on the level of thinking we each have.  It mostly manifest on the projection of enjoying a person’s company when sex is more of a duty than a preference later in life.  Link in a sense on the ease of idea synthesis even though we come from different attitude training, character rearing and beliefs.  Emotional attraction is what most people refer as the feeling of love.  It is feelings above reasons.  It doesn’t accept any logic since it believes that love should be free flowing.  It’s what makes a sane man crazy by choosing a seemingly inferior option over a trump card!  Spiritual attraction on the other hand is what most people refer as having a “soul mate”.  It’s just like having a perfectly picked flower for you from a vast field of flowers!  There maybe more colorful, more slender and more fragrant flowers later on but it’s the one perfectly picked by the lord especially for you.  Spiritual attraction’s presence is manifested in having a lighted path when you are with that special person.  That light will allow you to be a better person each day!  Perhaps, it’s hard to weed out that special flower from a sea of orchids but love’s never easy.

Some of my friends like this idea (mostly friends from UP) and some attack the very nature of it.  Some say that I’m over intellectualizing love.  I was thinking why.  Perhaps, our culture today promotes love mainly based on emotions.  It’s the reason why there is more than 50% failure rate of marriages in the states (I don’t know the rate in the

Philippines

!).  Of course emotions will surely degrade as the years flow, but emotion as a reason alone should not break the essence of loving a person since it naturally fades.  Previously I was a believer of the emotional attraction and physical attraction -only basis for love.  It’s great at first because it allowed me to have a highest score in an accounting long exam (prelims for non-upinians) without attending any of the 12 class sessions because I started an overly-leveraged business at the same time!  The feeling alone will allow you to reach a mountain of challenges without feeling tired.  But it’s a double-edged sword!  It will also make you jump fearlessly from a mountain of distractions.  In fact I got very low grades on next exams where I even attended classes physically but practically disturbed of emotions. 

Obviously, everything starts with physical attraction later transformed into emotional attachment however bodies will tirelessly age and the sexual experience will require more stamina from a biologically degrading body.  Emotions will certainly be tested and I think that it is normal that every relationship that is mainly based on emotions will experience a down slope. Mental attraction or simply a good conversation would lengthen a good relationship perhaps even for a lifetime to some of us since finding the perfect partner might simply never happen from a variety of reasons, money for example.  But mental attraction is something that we could possibly work on developing.

I wish that my present relationship is an authentic spiritual attraction as I think and feel it is.  She’s the only person that has a very positive effect on me on thinking the right way without compromising anything.  It is such a strong statement since the comparison would include everyone I know including my parents, relatives and previous emotional attachments.  Its not that she’s the most morally upright person I know but her presence alone allows for a passive but effective effect on correcting my faulty views in life.  I was tested with several misuse of intelligence in technology for example which allowed me to earn 5,000/transaction for a 5 minute effort and a regular flow of 75,000/month on operating on our town alone but I stopped and even helped the establishments I exploited know the exploits it there systems.  Spiritual attraction allowed me to constructively and selflessly solve our family problems by giving one of my business segments to support living expenses (about 40T/month).  I projected that I will be most likely similar to my second degree relatives continuing the regard of the “Juarez Family” as chick players if not for the guidance of a spiritual attraction.  I saw that it’s caused by pride in bragging, selfishness in enjoying someone cry and a false joy of overcoming the thrill of the chick chase.  I hope that I have the same effect on her because it won’t be a true spiritual attraction if it’s only going one way.

I personally think that not considering love on its emotional attachment skin alone will allow for a more fruitful and healthy relationship.

rj.juarez

feeling love expert

this is the usual question in HIGHSCHOOL gatherings.  i answer that i have a phobia instilled to me during preschool days.  i go on telling a story that living on a camp allowed me to see drinking everyday situation (the businessmen brings high quality sea produce and tons of cases of beer to the camp each day.  ofcourse expecting a favorable support from the military to them).  after a few beers, people arguing point each other at gun point.

this is the usual scenario.  one day when my father got fed up with the usual problem starter for the supposed to be "good-time-drinking" tied a seargeant at a coconut tree and then fired an armalite rifle purposely not hitting him until he urinates on his pants because of fear!

today, was another met up!  the number of people gathering were again getting smaller and the usual tradition of a usual conflict (which results to lesser people next time) happened expectedly.  i was thinking why.  is it because of liquor or unmatched egos of self percepetion versus the crowds perception.  maybe both. 

im thinking (feeling psychologists!) that in the usual HS met ups a person might think of himself improved (perhaps of getting a higher office position, perhaps of finishing higher studies, perhaps of developing the land of his parents, perhaps of a renewed lifestyle, perhaps of bigger and better business and perhaps anything to boost one’e ego!).  ofcourse not knowing what happened to a classmate would make you perceive that there is nothing improved on them of they are on status quo.  the over eager ego then would make a typical HS classmate feel to demand a higher level of respect which he most probably will not give to anyone because he would simply not know of what happened to them!  as you can see, the perfect mix of ingredients is here for a possible conflict blow up!  people would think of themselves better and is expecting more respect without giving the same respect.

a classmate just promoted will be expecting lesser personal jokes attacks from a seemingly low profile classmate who was just financially improved who feels that its now ok for him to joke a once better status classmate!  conflict happens.  i just love understanding people!

as i was watching this program "tyra", they showed that the guests (worth 2 billion dollars) have a common denominator of having early crude visions which they actively act on to be clearer each day!

the past weeks i was thinking about how to handle my present business leanings.  in this young business career (since i started with little or no help), i can see that im always leaning on the fun side of entrepreneurship in which i enjoy starting a business maybe because of the new learnings involved, more colorful people to interact and the unstoppable challenges that come along the way than striving to enlarge a present business which technically is much more financially rewarding.

im dividing my time too much on many concerns.  satellite tv distribution, internet lan shop service, water refill station, gaming lan shop service, wholesale prepaid telecom loading, water vendo fabrication (possibly franchising later on) and independent arcade gaming vendos.  we are also on the process of studying console gaming modifications, virgin coconut oil processing (actually designing our own process) and vacumm dried fish processing hoping to be materialized not later than 24 months.

i feel that each day of my life is an adventure i enjoy learning and actually seeing ideas through to be commercially viable.  but its near to a point where i can’t physically attend efficiently to all this things as comparing to investing the same amount of capital on a single business where there is financial and personal focus.  im still leaning on the harder but lesser income option (for now!hehe) since im not socially pressured to earn at this point of my single life and i believe that the learnings from a lot of unrelated fields (actually we rarely outsource jobs we tried learning PLC ourselves for example) would be more valuable later on when i have the social pressures to earn for my future family.

here is my vision for my 5 year future:  i will continue to open unrelated business at least one in every 11 months in addition to my present line-up.  i will not exceed 1m per investment (not to grow it too much).  help technical course graduates to earn (would be most likely unemployed otherwise) and help them achieve things exceeding their expectations of their capability.  by the time i’ll have my family i will use all the learnings, contacts and skills developed to make a medium size business (atleast 10m) together with my partner in life who is presently sharpening her auditing skills in top philippine corporations.

by that time, i believe that the businesses i was mentioning above would now be ineffecient for me to actively manage (a 1-2m business would cost much of my time by then!what a dream!hahaha).  i am thinking about this option.  why not make the employee who exceeded her/his expectations of their capability in each business segment a business partner!  in that case, i could possibly help people who would be otherwise unemployed to be helpful contributors of the community and i on the otherhand would get passive income (income while you sleep in business terms) from the simple projects im doing today with less if not no time requirements for management.  the small businesses would be very dynamic to last a long time since we will have frontliners who will be understood by middle managers (business partners who is now on their future shoes) who will have access to a strong marketing and accounting support from me and my future wife (this is the usual problem of small businesses).

me and my life partner on the otherhand could dream about bigger projects from our vast on field and industry experiences.

what a beautiful life to dream.

rj.juarez